Gaduh manja is a burden for only a period of time

Sebenarnya aku bercita-cita nak update hari ni. Aku golek kanan, golek kiri, tapi ilhamnya ngak dateng juga. Jadi aku pon bukak Terfaktab. Jadi aku dapat idea nak update. Iya..tok gurunya sudah dateng!

I looked at the latest entry One Of The Boys and I said, "They are ugly but the nice ugly one!"

I read through the comments and caught my eyes on a statement by a male blogger, I believe his name is Syazwan and he is from Sarawak. It's not a hard guess when you can obviously see the syzwnsrwk is missing all the A's. If he ever stumbles over this blog, please don't hate me. I am giving you some credits here :)

He said, "Love is like a burden". 

To a group of people, it's a yes. But it doesn't mean that another group of people lives on a happy love life all the time.

Do you know why lovers lose sparks by time? In my interpretation, it happens when they understand each other so well as they've been together for such a long time. A long time is subjective. It can be 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, 4 years, 5 years, ok..stop counting. 

Many would wish to know their partner well and have that imaginary chemistry. They always thought that by reaching this state, the puzzles are solved. Unfortunately, as usual, this rebellious me think that lovers nowadays have put too much faith in this old-fashioned, medieval attitude towards dating. 

I think that the more they understand their partners, the more chances they may find out about things they actually hate in each other. 

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Imagine a young couple who first met and fell in love 4 years ago. They were really sweet and tried their best to comfort each other. They won't do any stupid things that may hurt the loved one. Because they didn't know each other well, so they just played safe. 

Now, after for years the couple is still together but in a different atmosphere, not totally different I would say. The guy finally knows that his girl won't get angry for more than 2 hours. She will just throw a tantrum if something offends her but tend to forget about it easily. 

So one day, they had an argument and the girl cried as usual. Knowing the fact, if I was the guy, I would rather never attend on it and let she healed naturally. Knowing this fact, if I was that girl, I would hate him so much on that particular time because he didn't do the thing that a boyfriend should do. So the couple continued to fight, this time about another issue.

The girl looked through the corner of her eyes and asked,  "Are you just going to sit there with that intolerable espression?" 

The boy replied, "You don't plan to have this mood till midnight right?"

The girl swore to switch off her phone when she came back home. A protest! Later, she went straight into her room and did as planned. Then, she turned on her laptop and browsed Facebook. After 20 minutes, she looked at her phone and started to wonder whether the guy had arrived home safely.

She switched on her phone back and there was no SMS left, although he should be home by now. She was curious but still considered her pride.

5 minutes later, a beep tone heard. "Dah sampai rumah. Lebiu."

She dialed the number instantly out of curiousity just to know that the guy stopped to buy some cigarrettes. Ceh!

And the cycle continues all over again.........

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This is just one of the normal situations. Simply put, a lot of chemistry can also be troublesome. But still, compare to having none, the above fight is classified as gaduh manja. A burden for only a period of time. 

Secara general, couple yang dah bertahun-tahun bercinta adalah logik untuk selalu bergaduh. Jadi, setujukah anda bahawa kita selalu gaduh sebab masing-masing terlalu memahami satu sama lain? Dan kita akan gaduh disebabkan perkara remeh-temeh yang sama berulang kali. 

So people out there, whether you have full chemistry or none at all, you will still pick a fight with your other half, either it is gaduh manja or gaduh tak manja. But from this experience, you will know when is the time for you to finally let him go. 

Fighting!!!!!!!!!!!!!